It has been a big a personal debate whether or not to post something about Caroline. Here is something I wrote last night. I encourage you to visit http://carolinekosmas.org to read more about Caroline from friends and family.
“Today we celebrated the life of… and morned the lose of our dear friend Caroline Kosmas. It was evident at the funeral ceremony that Caroline was a loving, friendly, fun and compassionate person. She was committed to social justice and helping the little guy. She weaved a sense of community into everything she did… but what does that mean? What is a sense of community? In this time of pain and lose, I am not sure. I am not sure what community means. I am not sure of what it, this ephemeral thing called community, is. How does a community cope with the lose of such a dear friend? How does a community help the individual and the collective? If there is a time to reflect on this question I feel it is now.
I punched it into google, “define: community.” It’s a bit depressing. I don’t recommend it.
1) Community is an upcoming American comedy series on NBC. The series is a joint venture production between Universal Media Studios and Sony Pictures Television, where it will debut in Fall 2009. en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Community_(TV_series)
2) (ecology) a group of interdependent organisms inhabiting the same region and interacting with each other
3) A community is an administrative division found in Belgium, Canada, Greece, Iceland, and Wales. en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Community_(administrative_division)
4) The term Communion is derived from Latin communio (sharing in common). The corresponding term in Greek is κοινωνία, which is often translated as “fellowship”. … en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Community_(Christian)
What the fuck? What is this magical word… community… is it only ecology, governmentally defined units, some sort of Lord of the Rings reference? We all know that it is more than that. We all have this sense deep in our gut that a community is something larger than ourselves, something that we all strive to be part of and rejoice meeting in the best, and today, in the worst of circumstances.
Today I saw it. Today I understood what community means. I saw my beautiful wife and sisters in law signing Warrior and Hallelujah. I saw Kyle and Cindy. I saw Cranky Frankie sitting on Risk’s knee making faces at me. I cried on Jamil’s shoulder. I talked with Carlo about Mordor, family, and changing course. I saw Dr. Albritton, just like us, in shock, crying, not knowing what to do. Not knowing how to act. We all remembered Caroline. We all hugged Andrew.
In some way, in our own way, we all committed. We committed to each other as a community. We came together from across the world and remembered those who could not join us. We all committed to doing something to acting in memory of Caroline and in support of Andrew. This donation may be in time, it may be in money. Most of all, I hope that it is an outpouring of kindness and of respect. For this is what I understood about community today. It is about non judgmental respect, kindness and appreciation for the actions of those around us. On this sad day I hope that we can forget those old grudges, slights and hurts, that we can spread respect and kindness to those around us, reinforce the community that we already have and build the community we hope to create.”